A Special Delivery

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A Special Delivery

Dear Family and Friends,

We are so delighted to welcome and introduce the newest addition to our family: Olajuwon Victor Adeyemi!

Olajuwon Victor Adeyemi
Born January 5, 2023
8:30 am ET
7.3 lbs and 21 inches

Olajuwon is healthy and whole, and already bringing joy to so many. Because time flies and memories fade, I took a moment to write this blog with a few details about Olajuwon’s becoming. It warms our hearts to know that his arrival has brought joy to so many, and I wanted to be able to share a bit of the story with those who are interested. Thank you for being a part of our village!


Choosing the Name

Tolu and I knew we wanted baby’s first name to be from the [Nigerian] Yoruba language. The name Olajuwon stood out because of its special meaning: wealth and honor are gifts from God. Essentially, our son is a rare gift from God, and he is greater than any wordly gift or honor. Tolu and I have been very blessed over the years, and we acknowledge that every great gift is from God.

Also, because I am from Houston, Texas, there was a sense of familiarity with the name Olajuwon. Who can forget the great Hakeem “the Dream” Olajuwon and the Houston Rockets’ 1994 & 1995 championship wins? I liked that the name gave a gentle nod to my hometown of Houston and also honored Nigerian legacy.

Continuing with the themes of championship and winning, we chose the middle name Victor, meaning conqueror or one who overcomes. We know that challenges will arise in his life as it is inevitable. Our prayer is that he has the courage and strength to overcome whatever comes his way.


The Birth Story

“Fast and furious” were the words I used to initially describe Olajuwon’s entry into the world. He was not due until today (January 17) but in the very early morning of January 5 (around 2:30am), I started to feel very mild contractions. I woke Tolu up to tell him what I was feeling. I told him I was going to shower and try to relax a bit, hoping that the contractions would go away.

Around 5:00am, I realized the contractions were not letting up. Because I wasn’t in immense pain, I told Tolu we would wait until Tayo’s daycare opened so we could drop him off at school and then head to the hospital. Tolu called my doctor to let him know we’d be headed to the hospital in a couple of hours, and I continued to labor at home with mild to moderate contractions until it was time to go.

  • 6:30am - Tolu leaves to drop Tayo off at daycare.

  • 6:45am - Tolu picks me up from home and we head to hospital. We stopped at McDonald’s because I wanted some oatmeal, and Tolu ordered coffee. The 55-minute ride to the hospital was smooth. Tolu and I chatted with an occasional contraction interrupting here and there.

  • 7:50am - Arrive at Sibley Hospital and park the car.

  • 7:55am - We enter the Labor & Delivery Unit to check in. My contractions are much stronger by now but I still felt I had another 3 hours to go at least. While being checked in, I asked to go to the bathroom.

  • [sparing you some details for brevity + modesty]

  • 8:10am - Nurse comes in bathroom after hearing a few audibles coming from me. She returns with two more nurses and a wheelchair, and they whisk me away to an open delivery room.

  • 8:30am - Baby Olajuwon Victor Adeyemi was born, healthy and whole, only 35 minutes after we arrived to the hospital. Tolu cut the cord.

We are grateful for the wonderful doctors and nursing staff at Sibley who helped safely bring Olajuwon from womb to world.


Brotherly Love

Tayo has already fallen in love with his little brother. He wants to help with almost everything that involves Olajuwon, and we’re doing our best to include him in diaper changes, getting baby dressed, and more. Tayo insists that baby brother wants to eat peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with him (Tayo’s personal favorite) but we’ve let him know baby only eats mommy’s milk for now. haha

Some have said that Olajuwon looks a lot like Tayo as a newborn. I’ve included one newborn picture of Tayo below (far right) for comparison. One big difference is that Tayo was born with a mohawk but Olajuwon has a full head of hair.

Naming Ceremony

This past Saturday, Tolu’s parents led a small Naming Ceremony for Olajuwon at our home.

“The Naming Ceremony in Yoruba Culture is taken seriously because the Yorubas believe that a child eventually lives out the meaning of his or her names. A lot of thought, research, family traditions and history are considered before a name is picked for a new baby in Yoruba culture. A child’s name is mostly derived from the family circumstances before the child is born, or at birth. Long-standing family traditions, professions, or religion play a significant role in selecting names for a new baby.” (source)

It was a beautiful ceremony where family prayed over him, and we spoke about our intentions as parents and what we hope for in raising him. Olajuwon also met his paternal cousins, Ire (3yo) and Wale (6 months).


Lots to Celebrate + Appreciate

Because Olajuwon was born almost two weeks early, I’ve been spending the past few days getting caught up with all the things I intended to do leading up to January 17, his actual due date. My mother-in-law has been a tremendous help, and my mom recently arrived from Houston to help as well.

In addition to Olajuwon’s arrival, we’ve also had a couple of other reasons to celebrate including Tolu’s recent promotion to First Vice President (woo-hoo!) and my 38th birthday, which was yesterday. I enjoyed a mimosa or two for my special day, my first cocktail since early 2022. :)

We are so very grateful for our community of friends, family, and colleagues that have been there for us. Whether it was a note of encouragement, a gift from our registry, or just a simple prayer on our behalf, we thank you for sharing in our joy and the new life we’ve welcomed. Our sincerest gratitude and love to you!

This is us,

Emerald, Tolu, Tayo, and Olajuwon

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Cheers to Three Years!

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Cheers to Three Years!

Today, March 31, 2021 marks three years since Tolu and I committed to each other before God and our family and friends. If you were there, you know it was a day to remember. Yes there was the beautiful venue, luscious florals, glam embellished dresses, good food, music and drinks, but the greatest element I cherish and remember from that day is Love. Love was most certainly in the air. Not just between me and Tolu but also from family and friends. Fast forward to today, three years later and Love is still front and center.

Tolu and I have had anniversaries before (obviously). The first anniversary was cute; I was 3.5 months pregnant with Tayo. Second anniversary was nice; COVID was still pretty new so we were bunkered down at home. But this third anniversary… 3 years of marriage… well, let’s just say it feels extremely celebration-worthy!!!

For me, there is something special about the number three. It’s not one, it’s not two, but THREE! Three whole years and I can honestly say they’ve been better than I would have imagined. Maybe it’s because we now have Tayo, and we are now living in our home as opposed to Tolu’s condo. We have created life together and we’ve built a home together and our love continues to grow.

I’m sure there are some real marriage veterans reading this (like my parents or Tolu’s parents who have been married for 30+ years). You’re probably thinking, “Oh sweetie, this is cute. Three years! Wait until it’s 15 years or 30 years!!” lol… I hear you. I know that with time, trials and tribulations are inevitable but I am so grateful for the partnership Tolu and I have built. We’ve both put in effort to create a relationship and marriage that we can be proud of and that honors God and our families. It sounds silly but I’m proud of us. :)

We received LOTS of advice and counseling prior to getting married. I figured I’d share just a few that I’ve found to be very true:

  • Advice before getting married/when considering marriage: People evolve but they do not change. You should love and appreciate your partner for who they are at the core (what they consistently do or show you) without wanting to change them. If this feels hard, don’t get married!

  • Advice while married: Respect your spouse. On good days, challenging days, and questionable days, respect should never be forgotten. Always do what honors your marriage.

  • Best advice all the time: Keep God at the center.

To celebrate our third anniversary, we hired a photographer and decided to capture some fun memories as a family in our new home. (Plus, I needed the photos for our empty walls in the house.) Tayo warmed up to the camera quite well and stole the show of course. This was a nice COVID-friendly way to commemorate the day. I look forward to looking back at these pictures when our 3 years grow into 30!

All photos by Mike Anthony Photography - www.mikeantphotography.com

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We're Married!

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We're Married!

It's official! We are now husband and wife, for better or worse, til death do us part. Forever - ever! Our hearts are filled with gratitude for those who celebrated with us from near and afar. We thank God for our family and friends who support our union and continue to pray that our marriage be one that honors His name. Here are a few fun photos from our big day! Enjoy! 

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Coming to the Wedding? Here's What You Need to Know...

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Coming to the Wedding? Here's What You Need to Know...

FRIDAY, March 30th @ 6pm
Josephine Butler Parks Center, 2437 15th Street NW

1. If you are attending the Nigerian ceremony on Friday, we strongly urge guests to use Uber or take a taxi.
There is NO parking available at the venue on Friday. Please save yourself the headache and avoid driving to the event. There is no public parking lot and street parking is reserved for residents. 

SATURDAY, March 31st @5pm
Reagan Building, 1300 Pennsylvania Avenue NW

2.  Our wedding shuttle from Marriott Marquis will depart promptly at 4:20pm from the hotel's back entrance on L Street. 
Seating on the shuttle is limited.  We hope to accommodate as many guests as possible but please do consider Uber or taxi if you miss the shuttle. 

3. Upon arrival to the wedding venue, please use the 14th Street entrance. 
Because our wedding is in a US government building, all guests will be asked to go through security. You will not need a photo ID but please be prepared to go through a security checkpoint.

4. For guests who are driving, you may park in the building's parking garage. Your parking will be validated. 
Please be sure to ask an usher or event staffer for parking validation before you leave. 

5. We plan to party until 11:30pm.
Resist the urge to leave early or you'll miss all the fun! The shuttle will begin taking guests back to Marriott Marquis at 11:05pm. 
 

See you soon!! 

xoxo, 

Emerald & Tolu

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Nigerian Traditional: What to Wear?

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Nigerian Traditional: What to Wear?

We’re just two weeks shy of our wedding weekend and the questions have been rolling in. One question I’ve been getting frequently is “What am I supposed to wear on Friday [to the Nigerian ceremony]?”. So I wanted to take a few minutes to share some examples for guests who will attend Friday’s Nigerian traditional event.

Here are some examples that I found from a simple Google search, “Nigerian Traditional Attire”:

 
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And here are some photos of me, Tolu, and family from past Nigerian weddings we’ve attended:

 
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Now that you know what the attire looks like, you’re probably wondering “Now where the heck would I buy that?” The truth is many of these dresses and outfits are usually custom-made by a seamstress. (That’s why they always seem to fit so well). Since we’re two weeks away you likely won’t have time to get anything made but there are many online shops where you can find similar styles already-made. Below are a few online shops I’ve used in the past. Take a browse and you just may find something you like:

Grass-Fields.com
Women  |  Men

FlairbyAshi.com
Women

Zuvaa on Afrikrea.com
Women   |  Men

SimplyCecily.com
 Women   |  Men

IMPORTANT: Before you buy, be sure to check shipping time to make sure clothes will arrive in time.

I hope this helps just a little bit. Please do leave a comment below if you have recommendations for other places where guests can shop.

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Two Weddings. One Weekend. Say WHAT?!

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Two Weddings. One Weekend. Say WHAT?!

Yes yes, you read that right. We’re having two weddings in one weekend. If you know me and Tolu well, you may agree that we both are rather ambitious folks. We don’t really mind a challenge...and let’s be honest, we do love hosting a good party for friends. So when Tolu’s mom, Mrs. Ola, whom I simply just call “Mom”, said she wanted us to honor Nigerian tradition and host a ceremony on Friday evening, the day before the wedding, we said let’s make it happen.

And so, we’ll host the Nigerian ceremony on Friday evening and a traditional American wedding on Saturday. To differentiate the two (although probably adding a bit more confusion for some), the Nigerian ceremony on Friday is called “the traditional” and the wedding on Saturday is called “the white wedding”, placing emphasis on the Western world tradition of the bride wearing a stunning white gown. The Nigerian ceremony (aka “The Traditional”) will be a smaller event mainly for family and close friends. Our venue for Friday evening also has a much smaller capacity than Saturday’s venue.

You may be asking, "How do I know if I am invited to The Traditional on Friday?" Well, you would have received two invitations in the mail.

The invitation for The Traditional (Friday) looks like this:

 
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If you received an invitation to The Traditional, please note that an RSVP is not required as there will be opening seating at the venue.

And the invitation for the White Wedding (Saturday) looks like this:

 
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For the White Wedding, an RSVP is a big-must so be sure to mail back your response cards by February 7th at the latest.

If you only received an invitation for the White Wedding, don’t be sad. We promise to capture some great photos throughout the night, and I’ll even write a blog post about it after I recover from wedding day and honeymoon bliss!

I hope you found this to be helpful. Check back for upcoming posts on What to Wear to The Traditional and 5 Things to Know About the White Wedding.

Until next time,

Emerald

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How to Travel & Attend Our Wedding on a Budget

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How to Travel & Attend Our Wedding on a Budget

Hi Family & Friends! 

It's officially countdown time. Invitations went out early this month and the time to RSVP is fast approaching. Our invitation list includes a lot of traveling guests. Check out this breakdown: 

  • 30% - DC/Maryland/Virginia
  • 29% - Texas
  • 20% - New Jersey/New York
  • 16% - Multiple other US states
  • 5% - International - Dubai, Nigeria, and the UK

Because we'll have so many out-of-towners, I wanted to share a few tips on how to attend our wedding "on the low-low" (for our proper friends, that's slang for "on a budget"). Check out the tips below and we hope to see you there! 

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1. Stay one night instead of three. 
Although we secured some great rates at local hotels, if your budget won't allow you to make this a full three day travel experience, why not just make it a quick trip? The wedding begins at 5pm Saturday evening so that means you can catch an early flight Saturday morning, tour DC a little, shower and refresh to attend the wedding Saturday evening, have Sunday breakfast and lunch in DC, then catch a late flight out on Sunday night. It would be a lot to squeeze in within a short period of time, but we'd prefer you do that than to not come at all. :) One night = $133. Three nights = $399. That's a big difference! 

2. Fly Southwest or use Kayak.com. 
If you're flying into DC, be sure to check out rates on Southwest.com as well as Kayak.com. Southwest often has great affordable nonstop flights right into DCA-Reagan Airport, and I love that they let you check two bags at no additional cost. Kayak.com is also great because it allows you to easily compare rates across multiple airlines. You can even set a price alert to be notified when rates drop or increase. Here are a few great flights I found from Houston as an example. 

 
 

3. Wear something old! It's very tempting to go out and buy a new dress or fancy suit for special occasions like this, but there's no need to break the bank. Reach into the back of your closet and pull out that old but just-as-good-as-new fancy outfit, and rock it hunty! This will likely be the first time you have seen many of the people you'll meet so - while first impressions are important - no one will notice that you wore that outfit from your high school reunion 20 years ago. They'll just know that you look fabulous! 

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4. Book at Marriott Marquis or rent a home on AirBnB. The hotel rates we've secured are almost unheard of for Washington, DC. If you're looking to save costs, do stay at the Marriott Marquis ($133/night). We also have a limited number of rooms at a discounted rate at the Grand Hyatt ($159/night) and JW Marriott ($199/night). For more information about booking your hotel for the wedding, visit www.toluandemerald.com/travel-hotel. If hotel rates are outside of your budget, consider booking a room or an entire house on AirBnB. If you are a first-time user, you'll have to create an account and then you'll have access to rent anything from a studio apartment at $80/night to a spacious one bedroom apartment that sleeps up to four guests at $114/night. AirBnB is a great an option if staying with a larger group. Before booking, be sure to check the neighborhood's distance from the venue as many AirBnB options as rates are for less central locations.   

5. Don't rent a car...please! If you've never been to DC, you may think you'll need a car to get around. Trust me, you won't! If you're staying at one of our designated hotels, you're walking distance from just about any and everything. And if you need to travel further, DC is packed with taxis and Uber drivers galore so you will have no problem getting around. If you do decide to be a rebel and rent a car, just be prepared to spend a lot of additional money for parking garages and meters, and maybe even parking tickets - yikes! 

We hope you found these tips to be useful! If you have any questions, please do shoot us an email at TolullyEmLove@gmail.com. We will do our best to assist where we can. 

Em & To 

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